Following on from our review of “Back Home” a couple of weeks ago, I’d like to follow up by answering a question I was asked by a couple preparing to return to the UK after a period of serving God abroad:
“What are the most important things we need to know?”
There are in fact three principle things that knowing about can help prepare you for re-entry into what once was your ‘home culture’.
First, you are highly unlikely to fit in. Whether it’s simply because all the changes that you see around you make you feel “This isn’t home anymore” or something more significant like you are disillusioned with church because it doesn’t seem to have the same priorities as you, there will be hundreds of times when you feel like a square peg in a round hole. Being prepared for this will really help you.
Second, You may well experience a significant loss of self-worth, particularly if you have returned in order to retire. In the field, your skin colour might have given you status. In church you were always asked to preach or pray because you were the missionary; now you’re just another woman in the church. Previously, you had a mission, a sense of calling, and a support group praying for you; now you don’t really know what you’re going to do with the rest of your life. Making sure your identity is deeply-rooted in your relationship with God is an antidote to the feelings of insignificance and worthlessness you may have to battle.
Third – Syzygy can help! Whether you read our blogs on re-entry or our guide on how to do re-entry well, whether you come to one of the retreats we help lead, or contact us for some one-to-one support, we have the resources you need to help you navigate this challenging time effectively.
You don’t have to do re-entry alone!